Mechanics of grooming gangs
We need to decipher the higher success of predatory groups in targeting young girls. Here are the possible reasons.
Across the world, Muslim men have targeted and are still targeting young girls and vulnerable women. There are different ways of exploitation.
Grooming gangs exploit the girls by establishing physical relationships with them, video recording the interactions, using these videos as blackmail and exploiting these women physically, mentally and sexually.
In Love Jihad, Muslim men (often already married) pose as those from other religions, exploit the girls and force them to change their religion and make babies before divorcing them.
It is a fact that we all have our moments of weakness. When people in the grip of such weakness meet someone prepared to take advantage of it, such an act is a deliberate, well-intentioned and well-resourced psychological attack on the person. Women and girls are attacked as such.
Girls and women are conditioned.
All teenagers, and particularly girls, are vulnerable in and around puberty and teenage. This period of puberty and hormonal weakness opens a window of opportunity for the predators. These predators also target women who are lonely, are in difficult marriages, face monetary challenges and catch them in their moment of weakness.
But, it is not easy to target a prepared person. To be successful, the girls have to be lulled into complacency. They have to believe that they are physically equal to men; they can drink like men; they can smoke substances like men; they can have as many relationships, casual flings and one-night-stands as some men.
The left-liberal media and ecosystem are busy with this pre-programming. It creates vulnerable girls and women, ripe for picking on by predators.
The Muslim boys are prepped.
While not all Muslim boys are involved, those with vulnerabilities are incentivized to prey upon women and girls. The vulnerabilities stem from the brainwashing at puberty and teenage, channelling their hormonal energies to prey on non-muslim girls and women.
Madrassas and proximate entities sponsor the costs for wining and dining with girls. Seniors, including the mullahs, guide the young males and coach them on how to approach women, court, and psychologically control them. They are paid for taking non-muslim girls on dates, even given pills and powders to spike their food/drink. They are also given access to rooms, gifts, cars, and bikes to help with their conquests. Once trapped, the victims are abused by all the sponsors of this enterprise.
In other cases, Muslim men receive special payment once the girl marries the guy, converts and has kids. The same tricks are employed to induce the girl into marriage as in the case of grooming gangs - sometimes, video recordings of physical encounters are used as leverage. Once the girl converts, her bubble bursts and abuse starts. If the girl does not marry, the video is released on adult entertainment sites, and the abusers profit from it.
The tragedy is there is enough literature, starting from the Quran and others created by the Mullas, to justify the exploitation of non-muslim women as the "right" of Muslim men. In fact, some mullahs argue that such exploitation is the duty of the Muslims to help establish the rule of Islam. If you feel sick in the stomach, you are not alone.
The non-Muslim men are hamstrung by modernism!
The same left-liberal media and ecosystem that is lulling the girls into complacency is conditioning the boys to stand aside when misguided girls are jumping to self-destruction. There is a constant barraging of incompetent male role models fumbling through some of the basic aspects of life in media, movies, literature and almost everywhere. These images and stories are meant to convince the boys to be docile. With broken families, there are no real live male role models to counter such brainwashing.
The constant pussy-footing required so as to not offend some group or other is also a form of abuse and has its consequences. Modern men and young boys seem to find it challenging to talk to women, lest they be tagged in #MeToo or such social shaming. BelieveAllWomen and such hashtags have made men more reluctant to act.
On the contrary, in a perverse way, modern liberal society is protecting Muslim boys engaging in really exploitative behaviour. This double standard of expectation is not just tragic but dangerous.
I think this gets it wrong. I've listened to accounts of women who escaped from this trap.
This stuff is like a many-headed hydra that targets everyone based on their specific weaknesses. A lot of rural women targeted didn't have anything going for them, and their only goal was marriage. The men promised them marriage. Many of them didn't even know Islam was a different religion altogether, they thought it was just another caste group.
You think you'll get over this by educating your children. But the challenge is the theory sounds too shocking and made up. They'll use different strategies for the ones who are educated. They'll be like "im not like what you were told i was" and the girls will be left questioning everything they were told.
Being educated and liberated doesn't help. You'll be targeted by older more experienced men who take the form of mentors and supportive mature men. Look at Aruna Asaf Ali for instance.
Even if you're old, it doesn't end. Kamala Das was targeted by her much younger biographer or secretary.
Many girls avoid and reject such men. This makes them increased targets of violence.
I notice that the islamist targeting mirrors how the men in your society behave towards women. In Britain, the british themselves turned a blind eye to poor teenage girls being sexually exploited. Look up Andrea Dunbar and the movie Rita Sue And Bob Too. So that's how it looks like in their society.
In ours, there are many issues women face. You're expected to give up your birth family's identity and take on that of your husband's family and do whatever you can to keep them happy. Men's family has an obscene amount of societal power still. Domestic violence is still common. There are very high expectations of girls and women. Getting the correct share of property is still difficult for women.
So the legal differences don't bother a lot of women. They decide to take their chances with the domestic violence, could it be that much worse than what they saw in their own family? Is it such a big deal to change name and take on husband's family's practices and raise kids like them?
Even families can't suss out the bad men here - they come with aadhaar cards and all stating they are Hindu.
Hindu men are not constrained because of modernity. That's not the problem. The problem is as Hindus we're looking for a lifelong partnership that spans seven births, so we're more picky and circumspect about partners and have high expectations. A predator who doesn't care about the long term can say anything, be anyone, promise anything. A genuine guy would probably say my mom might not approve of you. Someone with short term aims will say oh my mom will love you and if she doesn't, we'll live by ourselves, I'm willing to give up my family for you. You can't compete with lies. .
I'm not sure what helps here exactly. I was told to avoid men of certain religions, but I didn't see it as particularly different. Muslim men eat meat and that is bad for us? Sure, but so do men of other castes. So do men of our same caste secretly. It's just difficult to communicate to a young person exactly what the problem is. We ourselves don't know what the problem is. Sure, you don't want to end up with a shoaib daniyal but you could end up with an Irfan khan? What factors lead to an Irfan khan vs a shoaib daniyal? We don't know.
Simple methods look like sweeping generalizations. Complex conversations are incomplete. This seems like a hard problem in general.